1.27.2012
1.24.2012
Isa Leshko
I read this article on the nytimes website and fell in love. On photographing elderly animals, artist Isa Leshko says:
"I am creating these photographs to gain a deeper understanding about what it means to be mortal and to exorcise my fears of aging. I have come to realize that these images are self-portraits, or at the very least, they are manifestations of my fears and hopes about what I will be like when I am old. My intention is to take an honest and unflinching look at old age and I want these images to inspire others to become aware of and to engage with their own attitudes toward aging and mortality. I also want my images to inspire greater empathy toward animals, particularly farm animals. It is rare to see a farm animal that has actually lived its natural life span given that most of these animals experience brutality and death early in their lives."
handsome one, age 33finn sheep, age 12
teresa, age 13
1.23.2012
.the truth.
I'm so desensitized that this didn't even sting, but it would have one year ago.
Oh, how it would have one year ago.
READ HERE by metroadlib
Oh, how it would have one year ago.
READ HERE by metroadlib
1.21.2012
.if you.
If you sleep on it, someone else will sneak up on it.
If you sleepin on it, someone else already wants it.
If you sleep on it, you gonna wake up nightmare wishin' for your dreams.
Know what I mean?
If you sleepin on it, someone else already wants it.
If you sleep on it, you gonna wake up nightmare wishin' for your dreams.
Know what I mean?
1.20.2012
1.18.2012
1.12.2012
A Male Perspective: 3 Signs That You Are Settling & 3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t.
The virus must finally have gone airborne. At first there were only isolated cases, but at some point this thing must have become incredibly contagious. Now, at the graceful age of thirty, I see it everywhere I look. Women like you, settling for men that you wouldn’t have looked at twice only 5 years ago.
Of course, you don’t call it settling. No one wants to call it settling. Instead you say that you are “finally focusing on what’s really important”. Except that’s a lie. You knew what was important by the time you turned 13. Probably before then. It’s hardwired into your DNA.
That’s right, I said it. The same qualities that your non bikini-line-waxing prehistoric ancestors were instinctively drawn to, are the exact same ones you should still be looking for today. Why, you ask? Well, why not? What makes you think you are smarter than 200,000 years of evolution? Still not convinced? Just keep reading…
3 Signs that you are pulling a Christina Aguilera(Settling):
1)When asked to describe him, the first thing you talk about is how “nice” he is.
Don’t get me wrong, nice is great. I guess. But I consider “nice” to be a periphery quality. Window dressing. That is, it’s a quality that’s great when attached to a core quality. Examples of core qualities include: a) Being funny (indicates a quick wit, awareness of surroundings, an ability to perceive subtle correlations, social prowess, ect -> all of which are good, old fashioned caveman talents), b) Strength (What...? You’re telling me you don’t want to feel protected? Be serious. Men should be strong… physically and or mentally. It’s still a Sabertooth tiger-eat-man world out there.
Then there are periphery qualities like being “nice”. You see, nice can certainly come from a place of strength and kindness. But it can also mean weakness or an inability to stand up for himself and/or others. It can mean apathy. It can mean that he’s just humoring you. You get my point. Before you decide whether “nice” is a good thing, see what else it’s attached to.
2)Other men blatantly hit on you in front of your man.
They don’t respect him. Because you don’t respect him. Yes, it is in fact obvious.
3)You are always going on and on to your friends about “how happy you are”.
The only person you are trying to convince is, yourself. Women who are in happy relationships don’t have time for all that talking, because they are way too busyfucking being happy.
3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Settle For Lame
1)There are still no guarantees.
We all felt Elin and Vanessa’s pain, and I totally get it. No one wants to get cheated on, much less publicly humiliated. However, while it may be more likely that a man with the star-power of Tiger Woods will putt for other holes (sorry), Joe the Plumber could just as easily do the same. Personally, I say roll the dice and go big. Arguably, it’s a better gamble. After all, can you really afford to risk getting cheated on by the senior associate at Foot Locker? Just imagine the embarrassment.
2)Things will get worse, not better.
You know when you SHOULD settle? In about 30 years. Settle then. Settle for the guy who you couldn’t keep your hands off at age 30, the guy who rocked your universe for the next decade.
Because that’s exactly what you will have to do after 30 years of marriage. Settle. Because 30 years is a LONG COT DAMN TIME. You better find someone you have a crazy, insanely passionate love/lust for. You are gonna have to be infatuated with him now, to even have a remote chance of being able to tolerate him in 2042. If you are just lukewarm to happy now, where does that go in even 5 years? 10? 50? Settle and you are signing up for a life of having to numb your soul’s anguish with prescription medications and wine coolers.
3)Your very own Dwayne Wade could be just around the next corner.
Look, I know your eggs have a little countdown going on in your subconscious version of ESPN’s sports-ticker. I can’t imagine what that feels like. But show a little faith, a little optimism, a little courage. Come on, aren’t women supposed to be the hopeless romantics? How does that “Don’t settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you can’t live without” quote go?
What if you meet David Beckham (for the purpose of my parable, lets pretend that he a) is straight, and b) falls madly in love with you) a month after you married Jon Gosselin? Sure, you could probably suck it up and remain faithful to your commitment. But would you really want to do that… forever? For EVER ever?
I don’t have all the answers. I know a lot of guys (particularly those who have a lot of things going on in their lives) just don’t want to settle down right now. After all, what’s the rush? You would want to wait too if it wasn’t for that whole making babies thing.
Just be patient. Date (slightly) older guys. Or bully, cry, threaten and manipulate your commitment-phobic love interest into diving in before he’s ready. Drag his 30-and-still-wearing-cubic zirconium-ass to the altar if you have to. Just don’t talk yourself into settling for someone that you don’t really want.
-Mattballin
This is the first in our male perspective series, make sure to comment and let him know what you think :)
-3thw
Of course, you don’t call it settling. No one wants to call it settling. Instead you say that you are “finally focusing on what’s really important”. Except that’s a lie. You knew what was important by the time you turned 13. Probably before then. It’s hardwired into your DNA.
That’s right, I said it. The same qualities that your non bikini-line-waxing prehistoric ancestors were instinctively drawn to, are the exact same ones you should still be looking for today. Why, you ask? Well, why not? What makes you think you are smarter than 200,000 years of evolution? Still not convinced? Just keep reading…
3 Signs that you are pulling a Christina Aguilera(Settling):
1)When asked to describe him, the first thing you talk about is how “nice” he is.
Don’t get me wrong, nice is great. I guess. But I consider “nice” to be a periphery quality. Window dressing. That is, it’s a quality that’s great when attached to a core quality. Examples of core qualities include: a) Being funny (indicates a quick wit, awareness of surroundings, an ability to perceive subtle correlations, social prowess, ect -> all of which are good, old fashioned caveman talents), b) Strength (What...? You’re telling me you don’t want to feel protected? Be serious. Men should be strong… physically and or mentally. It’s still a Sabertooth tiger-eat-man world out there.
Then there are periphery qualities like being “nice”. You see, nice can certainly come from a place of strength and kindness. But it can also mean weakness or an inability to stand up for himself and/or others. It can mean apathy. It can mean that he’s just humoring you. You get my point. Before you decide whether “nice” is a good thing, see what else it’s attached to.
2)Other men blatantly hit on you in front of your man.
They don’t respect him. Because you don’t respect him. Yes, it is in fact obvious.
3)You are always going on and on to your friends about “how happy you are”.
The only person you are trying to convince is, yourself. Women who are in happy relationships don’t have time for all that talking, because they are way too busy
3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Settle For Lame
1)There are still no guarantees.
We all felt Elin and Vanessa’s pain, and I totally get it. No one wants to get cheated on, much less publicly humiliated. However, while it may be more likely that a man with the star-power of Tiger Woods will putt for other holes (sorry), Joe the Plumber could just as easily do the same. Personally, I say roll the dice and go big. Arguably, it’s a better gamble. After all, can you really afford to risk getting cheated on by the senior associate at Foot Locker? Just imagine the embarrassment.
2)Things will get worse, not better.
You know when you SHOULD settle? In about 30 years. Settle then. Settle for the guy who you couldn’t keep your hands off at age 30, the guy who rocked your universe for the next decade.
Because that’s exactly what you will have to do after 30 years of marriage. Settle. Because 30 years is a LONG COT DAMN TIME. You better find someone you have a crazy, insanely passionate love/lust for. You are gonna have to be infatuated with him now, to even have a remote chance of being able to tolerate him in 2042. If you are just lukewarm to happy now, where does that go in even 5 years? 10? 50? Settle and you are signing up for a life of having to numb your soul’s anguish with prescription medications and wine coolers.
3)Your very own Dwayne Wade could be just around the next corner.
Look, I know your eggs have a little countdown going on in your subconscious version of ESPN’s sports-ticker. I can’t imagine what that feels like. But show a little faith, a little optimism, a little courage. Come on, aren’t women supposed to be the hopeless romantics? How does that “Don’t settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you can’t live without” quote go?
What if you meet David Beckham (for the purpose of my parable, lets pretend that he a) is straight, and b) falls madly in love with you) a month after you married Jon Gosselin? Sure, you could probably suck it up and remain faithful to your commitment. But would you really want to do that… forever? For EVER ever?
I don’t have all the answers. I know a lot of guys (particularly those who have a lot of things going on in their lives) just don’t want to settle down right now. After all, what’s the rush? You would want to wait too if it wasn’t for that whole making babies thing.
Just be patient. Date (slightly) older guys. Or bully, cry, threaten and manipulate your commitment-phobic love interest into diving in before he’s ready. Drag his 30-and-still-wearing-cubic zirconium-ass to the altar if you have to. Just don’t talk yourself into settling for someone that you don’t really want.
-Mattballin
This is the first in our male perspective series, make sure to comment and let him know what you think :)
-3thw
1.11.2012
.seven types of ambiguity.
“ You would love the way he sees you. He uses you as a weapon against himself and not merely because you did. He sits in his car at traffic lights on his way out sometimes and tries to estimate how many times he has sat here, waiting at these traffic lights on his way somewhere without you, hoping to meet someone with the capacity to consign you to an anecdote, to be eventually confused with others. He thinks of you when the woman lying next to him thinks he’s asleep.”
“Listen- all that she was then, all that she is now, those gestures, everything I remember but won't or can't articulate anymore, the perfect words that are somehow made imperfect when used to describe her and all that should remain unsaid about her- it is all unsupported by reason. I know that. But that enigmatic calm that attaches itself to people in the presence of reason- it's something from which I haven't been able to take comfort, not reliably, not since her.”
-Elliot Perlman
These excerpts speak to me.
“Listen- all that she was then, all that she is now, those gestures, everything I remember but won't or can't articulate anymore, the perfect words that are somehow made imperfect when used to describe her and all that should remain unsaid about her- it is all unsupported by reason. I know that. But that enigmatic calm that attaches itself to people in the presence of reason- it's something from which I haven't been able to take comfort, not reliably, not since her.”
-Elliot Perlman
These excerpts speak to me.
1.09.2012
.small talk.
Dear Small Talk,
I hate you. You make me uncomfortable and I do not understand why you exist. I have never understood why perfect strangers use you to instantly make themselves imperfect in my eyes. I think most people who use you as a tool are either:
a: Not genuine.
b: Socially awkward but have read lots of self-help books.
c: Salesmen
d: All of the above
I get it, people say silence is awkward. Nobody likes to feel awkward. But is it really more awkward than you? I think maybe you are the King of Awkward. You know what's the worst? Ending you. How do you step across a puddle of politeness? How do you flee the storm of small talk?
You know what I think? I think silence is beautiful. I think silence among people speaks to a sense of personal security and confidence that most people don't have. I think we should strive to be more comfortable with silence instead of filling the space with nonsense. I don't know where it became socially unacceptable to be silent around strangers or 3rd degree acquaintances but I think it's time we start doing things differently.
Small talk, I am hereby protesting against you. I vow to refuse to participate in you even it means hanging up on people in person by abruptly walking away. I know it sounds extreme...but change doesn't come easily.
Sincerely,
Elle
Chairperson for The Society Against Small Talk (SAST)
I hate you. You make me uncomfortable and I do not understand why you exist. I have never understood why perfect strangers use you to instantly make themselves imperfect in my eyes. I think most people who use you as a tool are either:
a: Not genuine.
b: Socially awkward but have read lots of self-help books.
c: Salesmen
d: All of the above
I get it, people say silence is awkward. Nobody likes to feel awkward. But is it really more awkward than you? I think maybe you are the King of Awkward. You know what's the worst? Ending you. How do you step across a puddle of politeness? How do you flee the storm of small talk?
You know what I think? I think silence is beautiful. I think silence among people speaks to a sense of personal security and confidence that most people don't have. I think we should strive to be more comfortable with silence instead of filling the space with nonsense. I don't know where it became socially unacceptable to be silent around strangers or 3rd degree acquaintances but I think it's time we start doing things differently.
Small talk, I am hereby protesting against you. I vow to refuse to participate in you even it means hanging up on people in person by abruptly walking away. I know it sounds extreme...but change doesn't come easily.
Sincerely,
Elle
Chairperson for The Society Against Small Talk (SAST)
1.02.2012
12.30.2011
.seriously.
And the day has come, that someone has decided to capitalize on the loneliness of women everywhere.
It's called the Boyfriend Pillow. I mean...
12.29.2011
.2012.
So many things will happen to you, so many things will be said to discourage you but don't forget who you are.
Don't lose sight of your dreams or let your vision be convoluted by others' expectations.
Don't forget that others' perceptions of you do not qualify as dogma.
Be the spine of steel and the feathered hands.
Be your own pyramid.
Be the version of yourself that exists when the noise fades.
Don't forget who your heart beats for.
You are beautiful.
Love, Elle
Don't lose sight of your dreams or let your vision be convoluted by others' expectations.
Don't forget that others' perceptions of you do not qualify as dogma.
Be the spine of steel and the feathered hands.
Be your own pyramid.
Be the version of yourself that exists when the noise fades.
Don't forget who your heart beats for.
You are beautiful.
Love, Elle
12.27.2011
.two for flinching.
When I was little, I didn't have too many favorite movies. I read a lot but I wish I would have watched more movies because then I might understand everyone else's obsession with Goonies, Adventures in Babysitting and all the other cult classics that I am not familiar with. (I also think that reading so much may have negatively impacted my eyesight but that's just a theory and although I hate to admit it most of my theories make sense to me but are completely baseless).
Anyway, there is one movie that I remember so clearly and became so attached to that I know that they must be a reflection of something important for me.
Stand by Me was the first movie that made me laugh, cry, and fall in love with watching a story about friendship unfold.
"Vern didn't just mean being off limits inside the junkyard, or fudging on our folks, or going on a hike up the railroad to Harlow. He meant those things, but it seems to me now it was more and that we all knew it. Everything was there and around us. We knew exactly who we were and exactly where we were going. It was grand."
Do you remember this movie? What was your favorite part?
Anyway, there is one movie that I remember so clearly and became so attached to that I know that they must be a reflection of something important for me.
Stand by Me was the first movie that made me laugh, cry, and fall in love with watching a story about friendship unfold.
"Vern didn't just mean being off limits inside the junkyard, or fudging on our folks, or going on a hike up the railroad to Harlow. He meant those things, but it seems to me now it was more and that we all knew it. Everything was there and around us. We knew exactly who we were and exactly where we were going. It was grand."
Do you remember this movie? What was your favorite part?
12.23.2011
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